Wednesday, October 29, 2008

Ephesians 4:2-3

Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Make every effort to keep the unity of the Spirit through the bond of peace. 

Carrots, Eggs, & Coffee!

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up, She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose. 

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word.

In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl. Turning to her daughter, she asked, ' Tell me what you see.' 

'Carrots, eggs, and coffee,' she replied. 

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. 

Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma. The daughter then asked, 
'What does it mean, mother?' 

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they  had changed the water. 

'Which are you?' she asked her daughter. 'When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? 

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength? 

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart? 

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest  do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean? 

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human and enough hope to make you happy. 

The happiest of people don't necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes along their way.. The brightest future will always be based on a forgotten past; you can't go forward in life until you let go of your past failures and heartaches. 

When you were born, you were crying and everyone around you was smiling. 

Live your life so at the end, you're the one who is smiling and everyone around you is crying. 

Friday, October 24, 2008

39 lbs. and 41"...

Those are the statistics provided by the doctor on my son! Below is him being happy as can be inthe waiting room! WooHooo!

Monday, October 20, 2008

"Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather must recognize that it is he who is asked. In a word, each man is questioned by life; and he can only answer to life by answering for his own life; to life he can only respond by being responsible. " - Viktor Frankl
1905- , survivor of Nazi concentration camps at Auschwitz and Dachau, medical doctor and professor of psychology from the school of existential psychology.

"Truth resides in every human heart, and one has to search for it there, and be guided by the truth as one sees it. But no one has the right to coerce others to act according to his own view of truth. " - Mahatma Gandhi
1869-1948, Indian leader. Hindu nationalist leader and social reformer.

Saturday, October 18, 2008

Our progeny deserve the best...

in these times we must work even harder than before. You have to think in ancient times our influence on our children was much stronger. Immense amounts of media outlets including the internet has created so much more that influences the lives of our children that it is of the utmost importance for us to focus more on our influence. Our children are so malleable and yet so many individuals let their children be influenced by whatever it is out there while they do their own thing. I am fortunate enough that the mother of my son has not faltered in her role as a parent. 

I believe a lot of what has caused the nation to get where we are is not a result of the war or the credit/mortgage crisis. But rather years of neglect of our domestic education system and the faltering of assistance to American citizens. Additionally, parenting in and of itself has caused lots of issues in our society as well. We have stepped away from the fundamentals that made this nation great. Does anyone else find it strange that education has had minimal exposure throughout the lengthy campaign for this presidental election? I have not been watching as much lately but I have not heard that word come out of either candidates mouth in recent weeks. I am disappointed, and find it to be inscrutable that this is not a bigger issue. we spend millions (probably even billions) to educate people in other countries; yet our own state of Mississippi has one of the lowest literacy rates of any progressive nation in the world. Michigan is quickly gaining ground to be a leader in unemployment and is quickly becoming an economic disaster for many.

Do not get me wrong, I am not anti-philanthropy. But at what point will we shift our focus back our domestic issues rather than continue to go to everyones aide while the state of our own nation continues to deteriate?

I digress...I am probably not making sense and to be honest as of late I do not understand myself. Just as this entry in my blog jumped around my thoughts have been doing this for weeks now so I hope you cold follow this. 

Back to what triggered me to write this entry after an emotional ride this video took me on I wanted to share it with all of you and ask you to share it with every father you know. 

Thursday, October 16, 2008

Innocuous manipulation; or is it?...

I know that I have acquired three to four regular readers and I know I have not been writing as of late (nothing of substance anyway) and for that I apologize. Well, here is more writing without substance; but, it made me laugh when I needed a smile so I thought I would share.

Young Chuck, moved to Texas and bought a Donkey from a farmer for $100.00. 
The farmer agreed to deliver the Donkey the next day. 
The next day he drove up and said, 'Sorry son, but I have some bad news, the 
donkey died.' 
Chuck replied, 
'Well, then just give me my money back.' 
The farmer said, 
'Can't do that. I went and spent it already.' 

Chuck said, 
'Ok, then, just bring me the dead donkey.' 
The farmer asked, 
'What ya gonna do with him? 
Chuck said, 
'I'm going to raffle him off.' 
The farmer said, 
'You can't raffle off a dead donkey!' 
Chuck said, 
'Sure I can. Watch me. I just won't tell anybody he's dead.' 
A month later, the farmer met up with 
Chuck and asked, 'What happened with that dead donkey?' 
Chuck said, 
'I raffled him off. I sold 500 tickets at two dollars a piece and made a 
of $898.00.' 
The farmer said, 
'Didn't anyone complain?' 
Chuck said, 
'Just the guy who won. So I gave him his two dollars back.' 
Chuck now works for the government. 

Friday, October 10, 2008

Fighting off a lackadaisical spirit...

If we took the time to sit and count our blessings; just how long would that take us? 

It would take hours...possibly even days. You disagree? Well you should try it. You have life, family, friends, your computer and Internet connection you are using to read this, the power used to power that computer, talents, skills (like the ability to read you are currently using)...get the picture? 

I challenge you all to begin that list. You will not complete it in one sitting but at least initiate the process. Next, I would like for you to rate some of those blessings. Now take the top five (or more) and when you wake up in the morning be grateful for those things. Thank God for those blessings (or just be grateful if a non-believer). You will be amazed at how your day will start off on a positive track. If you make this a habit you will find that you will begin to be more grateful on a more consistent basis throughout each and every day. 

Then as you begin to share your blessings with others you will become infectious with that positive attitude you carry. It is truly an amazing thing. 

As time goes by ask yourself this...are you hopeful, optimistic, and encouraging? Do you associate with like-minded people? Human emotions are truly contagious. If you hold these positive traits you will begin to attract the same. However, if you go into groups that are naysayers and pessimistic trying to "make a positive difference" you had better be VERY strong. Otherwise your attitude will soon, like those around you, become cynical and negative. 

So let us all begin to be grateful for what we do have and encourage and support those we are in contact with. This as most of what I write about is not easy. I never claim any of it to be so. With that being said, is anything worth having really easy? 

Now you decide. 

Wednesday, October 8, 2008

Uncertainty and consequences...

The uncertainty references the next few months of my life. Since recently discovering I have a son I have done much to change my lifestyle and everything in an attempt to be with him in whatever way possible. Meeting my son a couple of weeks ago was truly an amazing experience and went perfectly (obvoiusly excluding having missed out on the previous time in his life and then having to leave). The time we got together was spent blithely going along with no regard to time. I feel I greatly utilized the time there from when I stepped off the plane until I had to be dropped off at the airport the best I could. Now life has taken a huge turn....emotionally this has been difficult (MUCH more difficult than I could have expected). Obviously I am not omniscient in any sense of the word I now feel that I have to be so careful in everything I do whereas the consequences to my actions can greatly impact my son as well. It has absolutely even further changed the way I go about things on a daily basis. 

That is really all I have for you can see I have not been writing as of late and even my previous two posts sucked and to be honest I disagree with. If I read them in someone elses blog I would never (I meant that last statement).