In her outstanding book, "Choose the Happiness Habit", Pam Golden
writes: "Take the story of two brothers who are twins. One grows up to
be an alcoholic bum. The other becomes an extremely successful
businessman. When the alcoholic is asked why he became a drunk, he
replies, "My father was a drunk." When the successful businessman is
asked why he became successful, he says, "My father was a drunk." Same
background. Same upbringing. Very different choices."
The brothers chose different thoughts about the identical experience.
Those thoughts over the years shaped the circumstances they now find
There was a time in my life when I chose to think about challenges and
obstacles as just more of the "bad luck" I seemed to attract. Ever hear
the expression "when it rains, it pours?" That was my constant mantra
when others asked me how things were going. So what do you think I got
more of? If you answered "RAIN," you're correct!
Bob Proctor says, "you're either living in the problem or you're living
in the solution." Now, when I'm confronted with what I used to think was
a negative situation, I use a different thought process. I force myself
to replace those negative thoughts that creep in with positive thoughts
about how I might solve the "problem." Sometimes I'll take a notepad and
just start jotting down ideas that might be a solution. At the same
time, my thoughts are focused on the possible lessons I might learn from
the situation so that I might profit from the experience in the future.
If you've guessed that it doesn't "rain" as much in my life as it used
to, you're correct again. In fact, most days it's a beautiful, cloudless
and sunny day! Only occasionally now do I get any rain, and it's good
rain, the kind that makes living things grow.
And that's worth thinking about.
Ask yourself the following questions, "Am I living in the "solution or